We eat so we must cook.

But some how black women have to treat this normal daily aspect of life as if it is a badge of honor that only they can achieve. Today most people can no longer sew, weave, cook, tailor, or even not know how to cook. Most people don’t even know where their food comes from, and cannot even grow a flower, much less know how tomatoes are grown, so they some how think paying their own bills is their point of success in life.

Life is far too complicated than that, and since money making has become the high point of confidence most feel that their is no need for a man, or a father in a child’s life. I hear my two neighbors ranting and raving over how they can make it by, and who the hell needs a man. At the same time they’re always complaining about being single. I think those two thoughts are the very source of conflict that is keeping black women single.

This is not going to be appreciated but Black women and women of all flavors devalue themselves when they have children by fathers who don’t think enough of them to commit to marriage. Not only that, women set the moral standard in most relationships. Who wants to marry some skank with 2 or 3 kids by different unknown fathers? Come on.

This is a really lousy situation for children, too. Kids from one-parent families don’t just suffer from lack of finances, they absorb the lifestyle. Then, when they grow up, it is ok for them in their own bent minds to live the same crummy, lowdown lifestyles. It is not good. How do you raise a people out of that? It is unfair, but in the big picture, it is really up to the women. Maybe nobody can help who they fall in love with, but everybody can help whose children they have and under what circumstances they are born.

So raise the bar high, ladies, because that determines the calibur of men you will allow in your lives.