On a recent episode of “Oprah’s Lifeclass,” author and relationship expert Iyanla Vanzant talked about the topic of forgiveness, plus helped a 16-year-old teen of divorce to forgive his estranged father.

Vanzant says forgiveness is a gift you give yourself—but sometimes your ego gets in the way of moving on. Find out why she says holding grudges leaves you “emotionally retarded and spiritually constipated.”

Watch as Iyanla helps sixteen-year-old Joseph let go of the hurt from not seeing his father in the three and a half years after his parents divorced.

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